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Spring Break is Here!

Author: Uncool Parent Posted: February 26th, 2017

 

College Spring Break is here! It’s a big world out there…

Some college kids come home for Spring Break but others don’t. Whether on a college sponsored trip, community service experience or just to have fun with friends many students are traveling all over the world. Our kids are ready, willing and able to explore it. But are we ready for their untamed enthusiasm?

Just during freshman year alone, my son went on a expedition with his fraternity to Canada, visited friends at other colleges, and partied during spring fling in Florida (only because I wouldn’t permit him to go to Mexico!) Can’t anyone sit still? My head is spinning.

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Is Your College Student’s Living Situation Working Out?

Author: Uncool Parent Posted: September 20th, 2016

Dorm room in a typical college dorm

Now that we are well into the semester – we at UCP are wondering how your college student’s living situation is going? This is usually a major source of anxiety during each year that your child goes off to school. Even if they are friends with their roommate(s) that doesn’t always translate into a good living situation. So many of our kids are used to having their own room, so the idea of sharing a room or a bathroom with other people may be unsettling. Just like learning to share toys in preschool or kindergarten was a growing experience, so is learning to share a living space with a virtual stranger.

So what is your kid’s expectation of their living situation? Your child should keep in mind that you don’t have to be great friends with a person to be great roommates. But, most kids would like to be friends, maybe not best friends, but at least friendly enough to grab a bite or walk to the library. Knowing their roommate ahead of time isn’t a guarantee that it will work out. Living together certainly reveals more about a person than a typical friendship.

As the year progresses, a roommate might reveal certain traits that make living together difficult. Living together takes compromise from both people. Respect is a big part of a successful living arrangement. Your roommate should not touch or borrow your stuff without asking. Your roommate should be quiet when you are trying to sleep or study. Do you expect to study in your room or are you one of those people who studies elsewhere and comes back to the room to relax and blow off steam? Do you want your room to be a gathering place for others or a quiet place of privacy? So many roommate conflicts are just that; lifestyle conflicts. But the bottom line is that your college student’s living space should feel safe, like home.
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Spring Break – It’s Not a Vacation for Us

Author: Uncool Parent Posted: February 25th, 2016

I don’t know which is worse for a parent -having your child go on a vacation
with friends for Spring Break or having him or her come home. 

On one hand I spend their week away worrying about all the possible scenarios that could happen on a vacation and every possible thing that can go wrong. Bonfire on the beach? A race to the hospital for burns.  Learning how to trapeze? A fall and an injury requiring medical attention.

On the other hand, having my kid come home doesn’t feel much better. Now I have to negotiate with someone who has been on their own at school and used to their own timetable. I’m looking at a closed bedroom door until 2:00 pm -apparently the usual time to wake up. I’m trying to sleep at 2:00 am, wondering when I will hear the door open.

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