Empty Nester

Does Sending Your Kids Off To College Get Easier Each Successive Year?

Author: Uncool Parent Posted: August 12th, 2016

Somebody asked me the other day if it gets easier to say goodbye to your college kids in the fall when they are a sophomore, junior or senior in college. I had to stop for a minute and think.  For me the answer is a qualified, yes.

A lot of the anxiety that I experienced when each of my kids first went to school was tied to my child and the unknowns with respect to each of them. Would they like their roommate? Would they be able to handle the course load? Would they like their courses?  Would they make good friends? How smoothly would move in day go? And the list of this worried parent went on and on.

After freshman year a lot of those issues are no longer applicable. The fact that each of my children has proved that they can indeed handle the college work load, get great grades, make new friends, take care of themselves, makes it easier to send them off to school. The anxiety that I first felt on letting them go has abated.

Another part of my nervousness about sending them away to school had to do with the changing dynamics of our family and me. When my oldest went off I worried about how the house would feel with one less person in it. Would it feel funny to have three of us in the house instead of four? How would it feel around the dinner table? Then when my youngest went off I worried about being an empty nester. How would I fill my time since so much of it was taken up with my kid’s schedules? And of course, how would I deal with the knowledge that I was moving into a new stage of life and my concept of family would have to change.
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My College Kid Is Home!

Author: Uncool Parent Posted: December 15th, 2015

My son returned home the other night with a car filled with laundry. I received a “Hi, mom, finals went ok….what do you have to eat?” Ran through the house to his room – emailed and texted his home friends and he was out the door in one hour. Great seeing him for all of 10 minutes. Laundry is taking 10 days!

This Uncool College Parent’s Kid is Home!!

Author: Uncool Parent Posted: November 9th, 2015

My daughter came home from college for the first time this week. Our whole family was excited. I had heard from friends (including my UCP co-founders) that things might not be so smooth. But I didn’t believe it for a minute. Ok, ok, maybe I might have just a little.

But that knowledge did not take away from the excited anticipation of my reunited family. I figured if I kept my expectations modest, they couldn’t be beaten.

I don’t think of my daughter as young anymore, but we plan to reinforce some expectations that we have as a family, and ones that she knows my husband and I adhere to:
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