So you dropped your oldest child off at college and you are back home for a month or so now. You
may still be a little sad and depressed and looking to feel better. You are still not used to the fact that the dinner table has one less person at it on a regular basis. Now what?
This UCP recommends giving yourself more time to adjust. Don’t think that things will
feel right immediately. But we all adapt and that is a beautiful thing.
Certainly if you have another child at home, go out and enjoy being with them. Chances are they haven’t gotten you all to themselves in a while. You probably didn’t pay much attention to them because you were getting the older one off. Maybe they even were a good sport and helped
you move their older sibling into college, lugging the boxes and enduring orientation. So do something with them that you enjoy together. Go to the park, take in a movie, just have fun!
In many conversations with other mothers of college daughters, rushing a sorority is one of the topics that causes a lot of concern. According to one mother I spoke with her daughters’ experience caused her to be quite upset. The process of being eliminated from houses that she had hoped to belong to was very hurtful. At a time when these young women are dealing with so many changes, handling the rejection of this kind is quite difficult. Certainly if a girl does not get a bid it is quite upsetting. Damage control by the family kicks into high gear. Reminding this young woman that she is indeed wonderful and desirable becomes paramount. But even if there is a positive outcome and your daughter gets a bid, it makes you wonder about the process.
We’re thinking about our kids’ safety, but are they?
Start a dialogue and keep the lines of communication open. Make a plan to stay in touch with your child and stick to it. Share these tips with your kids. There’s a lot here. Maybe one at a time?! Your kids might roll their eyes, but they will hear:
- Be aware of your surroundings. Become familiar with the campus and map out safe ways to walk to and from your classes. Walk in lit areas that are frequently traveled.
- Always walk with at least one other person that you know. Groups are better but are not always practical. If you have to walk alone somewhere, make sure someone is aware of where you will be walking and when you should arrive at your destination.
Personally, I encourage my daughter to call me on her cell phone when she is walking somewhere alone. We talk until she arrives at her destination safely. Even though she is on the phone I encourage her to stay aware of her surroundings.