In many conversations with other mothers of college daughters, rushing a sorority is one of the topics that causes a lot of concern. According to one mother I spoke with her daughters’ experience caused her to be quite upset. The process of being eliminated from houses that she had hoped to belong to was very hurtful. At a time when these young women are dealing with so many changes, handling the rejection of this kind is quite difficult. Certainly if a girl does not get a bid it is quite upsetting. Damage control by the family kicks into high gear. Reminding this young woman that she is indeed wonderful and desirable becomes paramount. But even if there is a positive outcome and your daughter gets a bid, it makes you wonder about the process.
We’re thinking about our kids’ safety, but are they?
Start a dialogue and keep the lines of communication open. Make a plan to stay in touch with your child and stick to it. Share these tips with your kids. There’s a lot here. Maybe one at a time?! Your kids might roll their eyes, but they will hear:
- Be aware of your surroundings. Become familiar with the campus and map out safe ways to walk to and from your classes. Walk in lit areas that are frequently traveled.
- Always walk with at least one other person that you know. Groups are better but are not always practical. If you have to walk alone somewhere, make sure someone is aware of where you will be walking and when you should arrive at your destination.
Personally, I encourage my daughter to call me on her cell phone when she is walking somewhere alone. We talk until she arrives at her destination safely. Even though she is on the phone I encourage her to stay aware of her surroundings.
Laundry! That word conjures up real drudgery for some. Most of our kids probably have little or no experience with it and now that they are going off to college we better teach them fast. Take the time during the summer when laundry is probably at an all time high, with all the towels and bathing suits, to let them do a load or two before they are off on their own.
Whether to use hot or cold water, use one rinse or two and how to separate dark from light clothing. Make sure you get them a good laundry bag or basket so that they can carry their clothing and the detergent easily to the laundry room in the dorm. I suggested that my kids use the fabric softener sheets, because it seemed easier than having to add the fabric softener into the washing machine and the machines in the dorm may not have a separate receptacle for it. And now they have those pods which makes it even easier and takes the guesswork out of measuring the detergent.